I discovered that when I believed my thoughts, I suffered, but that
when I didn’t believe them, I didn’t suffer, and that this is true for
every human being. Freedom is as simple as that. I found
that suffering is optional. I found a joy within me that has
never disappeared, not for a single moment. That joy is in
Everything happens for you,
not to you.
Once you no longer believe your own thoughts, you act without doing
anything, because there’s no other possibility. You see that all
thoughts of yourself as the doer are simply not true.
It’s very frightening for them [rigidly pious people] to watch the
world unfolding in apparent chaos and not realize that the chaos itself
is God in his infinite intelligence.
If I think I’m supposed to be doing anything but what I’m doing now,
When I say “I love you,” it’s self-love. There’s no personality
talking: I’m only talking to myself.
Isn’t that why you want to save the world in the first place? So
that you can be happy? Well, skip the middleman, and be happy
from here! You’re it.
The apparent craziness of the world, like everything else, is a gift
that we can use to set our minds free. Any stressful thought that
you have about the planet, for example, shows you where you are stuck,
where your energy is being exhausted in not fully meeting life as it
is, without conditions. You can’t free yourself by finding a
so-called enlightened state outside your own mind. When you
question what you believe, you eventually come to see that you are the
enlightenment you’ve been seeking. Until you can love what
is–everything, including the apparent violence and craziness–you’re
separate from the world, and you’ll see it as dangerous and
frightening. I invite everyone to put these fearful thoughts on
paper, question them, and set themselves free. When mind is not
at war with itself, there’s no separation in it. I’m sixty-three
years old and unlimited. If I had a name, it would be
Service. If I had a name, it would be Gratitude.
So, when you see him as flawed in any way, you can be sure that that’s
where your own flaw is. The flaw has to be in your thinking,
because you’re the one projecting it. You are always what you
judge us to be in the moment.
Where are your hands right now? Who put them there? Did you do that? And then, no
matter what your thinking is, you – it – moved again. Maybe it
moved your foot. Maybe it swallowed, or it blinked your
eyes. Just notice. That’s how you enter not-doing, where
everything falls sweetly into place.
All fear is like this. It’s caused by believing what you think–no
more, no less. It’s always the story of a future. If you
want fear on purpose, get a plan. Fear is not possible when
you’ve questioned your mind; it can be experienced only when the mind
projects the story of a past into a future. The story of a past
is what enables us to project a future. If we weren’t attached to
the story of a past, our future would be so bright, so free, that we
wouldn’t bother to project time. We would notice that we’re
already living in the future, and that it’s always now.
Finally I understood. I said, “Oh, you believe that if thought
arises, you did it.”... But the truth is that I’m not
thinking. Thoughts just arise... I’m not doing the thinking, I’m being
The Great Way is easy. It’s what reveals itself right here, right
now. “Do the dishes.” Answer the email.” “Don’t
answer the email.” It’s the great Way because it’s the only
way. Whatever you do or don’t do is your contribution to
reality. Nothing could be easier. Nothing else is required;
you can’t do it wrong.
We do only three things in life: We sit, we stand, and we lie
horizontal. That’s about it. Everything else is a story.
She lets all things come because here they come anyway; it’s not as if
she had a choice. She lets all things go because there they go,
with or without her consent. She delights in the coming and the
going. Nothing comes until she needs it, nothing goes until it’s
no longer needed. She is very clear about this. Nothing is
wasted; there’s never too much or too little.
You can’t let go of a stressful thought, because you didn’t create it
in the first place. A thought just appears. You’re not
doing it. You can’t let go of what you have no control
over. Once you’ve questioned the thought, you don’t let go of it,
it lets go of you.
Being present means living without control and always having your needs
met. For people who are tired of the pain, nothing could be worse
than trying to control what can’t be controlled. If you want real
control, drop the illusion of control. Let life live you.
It does anyway.
When you hide your flaws, you teach us to hide ours. I love to
say that we are just waiting for one teacher, just one, to give us
permission to be who we are now. You appear as this, big or
small, straight or bent. That’s such a gift to give. The
pain is in withholding it. Who else is going to give us
permission to be free, if not you? Do it for your own sake, and
we’ll follow. We’re a reflection of your thinking, and when you
free yourself, we all become free.
Your story and reality just don’t match. Reality is always kinder
than your story about it – but only always.
When you no longer have a will of your own, there is no time and
space. It all becomes a flow. You don’t decide, you flow
from one happening to the next, and everything is decided for you.
When you revere a spiritual teacher, it’s yourself that you’re
revering, because you can’t project anything but yourself... It’s
a fine thing to love Jesus [or Buddha], but until you can love the
monster, the terrorist, the child molester, until you can meet your
worst enemy without defense or justification, your reverence for Jesus
[or Buddha] isn’t real, because each of these is just another of his
forms. That’s how you know when you are truly revering your
spiritual teacher; when your reverence goes across the board.
When you stop seeking, the beauty concealed by the seeking becomes
evident. What you wanted to find is what remains, beyond all
I trust everyone. I trust them to do what they do, and I’m never
disappointed. And since I trust people, I know to let them find
their own way. The wonderful thing about inquiry is that there’s
no one to guide you but you. There’s no guru, no teacher who, in
her great wisdom, shows you the answers. Only your own answers
can help you. You yourself are the way and the truth and the
life, and when you realize this, the world becomes very kind.
We think that because Jesus and the Buddha wore robes and owned
nothing, that’s how freedom is supposed to look. But can you live
a normal life and be free? Can you do it from here, right
now? That’s what I want for you. We have the same desire:
your freedom. And I love that you’re attached to material
objects, whether you have them or not, so that you can come to realize
that all suffering comes from the mind, not the world.
We don’t know where we’re going, we just like to imagine that we
know. I never believe it. That way, wherever I am, my
journey is complete and I’m a success, because here I am.
The litmus test for self-realization is a constant state of
gratitude. This gratitude is not something you can look for or
find. It comes from another direction, and it takes you over
completely. It’s so vast that it can’t be dimmed or overlaid.
Quotes from Loving what is
If [he] says something that hurts, he’s just revealed what you haven’t
wanted to look at yet. The man is a Buddha.
[W]e’re babies just learning how to live out our love. We keep
trying to meet love in everything and everyone, because we haven’t
noticed that we already have it, that we ARE it.
What I love most about reality is that it’s always the story of a
past. And what I love most about the past is that it’s over.
“It’s a tree. It’s a table. It’s a chair.” Is it
true? Have you stopped to ask yourself? Have you ever
become still and listened as you asked you? Who told you it was a
tree? Who was the original authority? How did they
know? My entire life, my entire identity, had been built on the
trust and uninquiring innocence of a child.
But even the Now is a concept. Even as the thought completes
itself, it’s gone, with no proof that it ever existed, other than as a
concept that would lead you to believe it existed, and now that one is
gone too. Reality is always the story of a past. Before you
can grasp it, it’s gone. Each of us already has the peaceful mind
that we seek.
We don’t know how to change; we don’t know how to forgive or how to be
honest. We’re waiting for an example. You’re the one.
You are your only hope, because we’re not changing until you do.
Our job is to keep coming at you, as hard as we can, with everything
that angers, upsets, or repulses you, until you understand. We
love you that much, whether we’re aware of it or not. The whole
world is about you.